Starting Nursery at 2: How to Prepare Your Child
Starting nursery is a big step for a two-year-old, and for you. With a little preparation, most toddlers settle well and soon love their new routine. Here’s what we’ve learned from helping many two-year-olds start at our nursery for 2 year olds in Fulham.
Is two a good age to start nursery?
Many children start around two, and plenty thrive. But readiness varies. A child who enjoys other children, can manage a short time away from you, and is curious about new places is likely to settle well. Every child is different, and a good nursery will follow your child’s pace.
Six ways to prepare at home
1. Talk about nursery positively
Mention nursery in everyday chat: “At nursery you’ll play in the park with your friends.” Use their key person’s name once you know it.
2. Shift towards a nursery-friendly routine
In the weeks before, gently move mealtimes and naps closer to nursery times, so the first days feel familiar.
3. Encourage small steps towards independence
Practise pulling off socks, washing hands, drinking from an open cup and feeding themselves with a spoon.
4. Practise short separations
Leave your child with a grandparent or friend for short spells, and always come back when you said you would.
5. Help them communicate their needs
Teach simple words or signs for “drink”, “toilet”, “tired” and “help”, and tell their key person any words that are special to your child.
6. Read books about starting nursery
Stories about going to nursery make the idea familiar and give you a way to talk about feelings.
What happens during settling-in?
Most nurseries start with short visits and build up. At Caring Hands, your child’s first visits are with you close by; then you step out for a short time; then the sessions get longer, until your child is staying for full sessions. Our settling-in plan →
What if my child cries when I leave?
It’s very common, and it doesn’t mean your child is unhappy at nursery. Most children stop within minutes of a parent leaving. Keep goodbyes short and warm, tell your child when you’ll be back (“after tea”), and go. Lingering, or slipping out without saying goodbye, usually makes the next drop-off harder. If tears continue for more than a couple of weeks, talk to the key person and adjust the plan together.
Don’t worry if your child isn’t potty trained
Most two-year-olds still wear nappies. Nurseries expect this and will support toilet training with you when your child is ready. Potty training at nursery →
What to pack
- Two or three full changes of clothes, labelled
- Nappies and wipes, if the nursery doesn’t provide them
- A comforter from home
- Weather-appropriate clothes for outdoor play: waterproofs, wellies, sun hat
- Any medication, with the nursery’s medication form
Making the first day easier
- Arrive in plenty of time; rushing makes everyone anxious.
- Bring a familiar toy.
- Stay calm and cheerful, even if you’re feeling emotional.
- Be on time at pick-up, so your child learns you always come back.
- Plan a quiet evening; new routines are tiring.
Frequently asked questions
Is two too young to start nursery?
No. Many children start around two and enjoy it. What matters is a gentle settling-in and a nursery that follows your child’s pace.
How long does it take a two-year-old to settle?
Usually two to four weeks, but it varies.
Should I practise being apart before nursery?
Yes. Short, positive separations help.
Thinking about a start date?
See how admissions work or book a visit.
